If I were you, LnL, I would consult a lawyer ASAP. Your WAH sounds like a really unreasonable person (as, I guess, narcissists are) to the extreme. If he cannot even see his responsibility in making sure D is home for school (basic parenting), and even thinking it amusing she would miss a whole week, then he is totally useless as a father, IMHO. Perhaps, it is time to start thinking about moving to a place where you might be able to look after yourself and D with or without his assistance. It sounds like it is best to be totally independent of narcissists, and as far away from them as possible. One has to question how good he is in D's life?

Sorry, if I sound judgemental, and know-it-all, but he sounds like a bully, and I loathe bullies.

Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed.
D35,S/D twins28,D22
EA4/04 End? Who knows?
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