Quote: I need to think very hard this coming year of the long term consequences of staying in this country or moving away. Perhaps cutting my loses and starting anew and without H around the corner.
In theory I want my daughter to have full access to her Dad and for us to have a decent relationship as co-parents, but I wonder if that is a pipe dream and it is better to get out sooner rather than later.
You know - my first instinct is, much as your H is a pain in the behind and not a great example, he's really not that terrible of a father that your D would be better off without him. It's hard not to have a dad - and if you moved far away, she basically wouldn't have one.
On the flip side - if moving would mean that your D had cousins and aunts and uncles and warm extended family in her daily life - that's a good thing.
Remember, though, that moving far from H might mean having to send your D to spend months at a time with him in the summers - and is that what you would really want?
I don't suppose there's any chance of convincing H to move, is there? Although sure as shooting, you'll make all these plans to stay there, then he'll move himself!
