Liv, just a tip which really helps me. I always answer STBXH's requests with a "yes" or a "no". I have stopped "we'll see" because he reads that as "yes" -- and that may not be my intention. Sometimes I feel pressed to answer a request so I just say, "I need some time to think about that. I'll let you know tomorrow/Thursday/later."
With a narcissist, you cannot give them any wiggle room. You must be literal. You must be firm. They may do whatever is in their own inflated self-interest, but you, at least, will have been clear.
