Thanks for your visit. A move to Hopefulness? I really don't know. Is that the halfway house between DBing and embracing the idea of the inevitablity of Divorce?
I have truly come to see that my H really doesn't have the "equipment" to sustain a marriage. He doesn't "get it" and never has. I am not convinced he even can in the future. It would take an epiphany of some kind.
Now see what happened yesterday.
D was getting ready (or NOT getting reay, I should say) for school in the morning, and she was exasperating me, so I was "nagging" her to get a move on. This happens nearly every morning. She got annoyed at my exhortations to hurry up and threw out "I wish I was living with Daddy, not with you!"
In times past I would have definitely reacted - I would have told ber not to be rude, or been silently very hurt, or been alarmed, or tried to 'explain' things to her, something ...
Instead I just heard it as her expression of frustration at HAVING to go to school and said nothing, let it pass. And no more was heard of it!
I guess D is at an age when she thinks that not having to have a bath, brush her hair, change her underpants, do her homework, get ready for school, etc etc is considered so much better than having to do these things! So being with her Dad seems so much more fun!!!!!
Livnlearn
"The unexamined life is not worth living" - Socrates
