Yesterday morning I was chatting to my good friend and she informed me she and another friend were going out to eat at a new restaurant that evening. A restaurant that we have both talked about often, and I noticed no invitation to join them was forthcoming.
Whatever.
Funnily enough, just after that, another of my friends called and suggested a get together of a few folk at my house, all bringing a contribution, and we had a nice evening here.
I had nipped out of the house at one point and when I came back I noticed a message from H on the answerphone. Said he was coming down to city on Saturday (today), and "was thinking of taking D out to lunch, and you could come too, if you want".
There is no recognition of the fact that it is my weekend with D, he is not ASKING to take D out, he is informing me of what he plans! The fact is, we have plans to go to the swimming pool today with friends and we're taking a picnic lunch to eat on the lawns.
H rang again in the middle of dinner and told me his plan again. I said, well, we are going to the pool for the day. He said, oh yes? Maybe I can come there and see you for a bit!
This is NOT what I want, but it is a public space and I can hardly stop him from turning up, so I said, I guess.
Then he said, in his usual aggressive tone, will they make me pay $----- just to get in? I don't want to swim!
I said, I don't know, you'll have to find out!
Then he said, is there a restaurant there or something? I said, not really, we're taking stuff for a picnic.
So now I feel "obliged" to take enough for him as well. Wonder if it will occur to him to bring a contribution?
I can't believe it, just when I finally decided I don't want this man in my life any more, I really need to move on without him, he is trying to snag my attention.
Other things he mentioned - that he had completed a humungous amount of work the last week. Good for him.
Then he asked, guess what? I am probably getting a dog!
I said, oh. He said he is going to see a German Shepherd/Doberman cross. He asked what I thought.
I said, that's a big responsibility. I asked if he was going to keep it indoors or what?
He laughed, said yes, and probably no more travelling abroad, and he doesn't have any enclosure outdside the apartment, but lots of space of course, he lives in the country.
I have grave misgivings, I have to say.
He is getting the kind of agressive big guard dog type, and he lives in a small one bedroom place with no outside enclosure.
I hope it will be safe around children.
He didn't want the responsibility of a family or a mortgage, I DOUBT very much he has thought ahead to the responsibility of having a big dog.
Of course D will be happy as she is always pestering me for a dog. But boring old Mum thinks practical!
Anyway, I hope I get through H's visit to the swimming pool with grace, I will report back about it.
Oh yes, my copy of "Loving What Is" arrived in the post today, so I have some poolside reading!
Livnlearn
"The unexamined life is not worth living" - Socrates
