Good advice, I just don't know if I have the resolve to stand by that and leave D to his mercy, no matter what. It is the standby arrangements that would be difficult. My friends willl be away on holiday themselves, and if I have to take D with me it requires expensive flights booked in advance and all that... no handy relatives nearby!
H talked to D on the phone this evening. At one point I heard her say "Are you going to get that place then?" Another time I heard her say "This place is fine for two, it's not too big!" (I think she was referring to our house. I know H will grind me down about selling up so he can get his hands on some capital). I also heard D mention OW2's name in some connection.
I am so glad I have seen the light. My H is not capable of being my friend, he is going to be a thorn in my side for a very long time. I want to move away, eventually, from having anything to bind us together financially or materially, apart of course from D. It will be the slow drip of erosion and PA, and getting in touch when he has needs to fullfil, nothing more.
My friend and sister both chatted with me today, to find out how I was. Not a cheep from H.
Livnlearn
"The unexamined life is not worth living" - Socrates
