I have a friend whos mum has BPD (borderline Personality disorder). I've talked to her for a long time about how to deal with a BPD mum. We used the theory that two heads are better than one. I've read the websites etc and they've been a great help. By using me and a sounding post she felt she was able to balance the head/heart problem. I was using my head and she was using her heart. She's 38 and has finally given up and has made the decision never to see her mum again. This has been made very reluctantly but has been done because of the effect the BDP grandmother was having on her children.
From the outside it's easy to see what needs to be done. And in her case her head kept on telling her what needed to be done. But of course ones heart tells us something else.
I'm guessing that similar things apply to anyone with a personality disorder.
Only you can decide Liv what needs to be done for your family. And by using that word family I include your h too. If he does have NPD has that been properly diagnosed? Does he accept the diagnosis? And is he willing to do anything about it?
