Alone

[Livnlearn]

This is not the way I inteneded to start my new thread, but I have had a difficult day with D. I have had two major diciplining showdowns with her.

Earlier she was rude, disobedient and by my standards just WAAAAAYYYYYY out of line. She does and says things I couldn't have DREAMED of doing when I was her age. Partly due, I know, to completely different cultures, but nonetheless absolutely SHOCKING to me. We resolved that eventally, with me doing a lot of explaining about what I expected from her behaviour wise and her apologising, if only to get what she wanted later.

This evening she watched a full length film on video and when it was over, it was pretty late and past her bedtime. I asked her to switch off the TV. She started shouting over me that she wanted to watch the funny clips which came afterwards. I repeated that I wanted her to switch off the TV. She continued shouting. I switched it off. She made to pull my arm away (shoving me aside) and put the TV on again. By this time I was livid. I put it off again and she made to put it on again, then tried to kick me.

All this from a kid who is very sweet and good as gold with others around. I told her, no TV for a month and no others priveliges for this week. Then we started to eat.

I was still very disturbed by what had happened, and started talking to her, and she answered me in a very offhand way, like I was a piece of dirt. I sent her straight to bed.

This, Ellie, is what I mean by dreading very much that her behaviour echoes H in some way. The smirk/inability to take something I am saying seriously.

I feel so very very alone. My H is hardly a belp in this matter. My good friend is somehow in her own world these days, and most things I talk about make her eyes glaze over unlesss it is about her. She doesn't seem to be on the same page as me these days.

I don't think people even believe me when I talk about D acting up, as they only see the nice D side.

Isn't nine and a half years old a little young to be acting so rebellious and challenging?

Please help me. It seems as if only D and H can get me behaving like a lunatic with rage.

Livnlearn