Well my wife and I have been separated for just over six months, and through DB techniques I think I have saved my marriage.
When my wife left, she moved to a small town about 2 hours from where I am now. She finally found a job there (about three weeks ago) and was sent to a training for two weeks in the big city where I live. She called me from the hotel and we basically spent every evening and night together while she was here.
It was great and we talked, and had a great time. We had two visits before this and she had seemed somewhat cold at first but not on this visit. Anyway, we had a great time and she invited me to drive her back to the small town where she is staying. I saw her place and this was a huge step because her family really dislikes me and she was worried about them seeing me (it is a really small town).
Anyway, during this time, she was talking about the future, having kids, decorating the house I bought while she was gone. She even said that she loved me, and I pressed her and she said she loved me the way a wife loves a husband!
We were both honest about some indiscretions with the opposite sex that occured during the separation...nothing too serious on either side. She truly feels that all of my changes I have shown her are for real. She also told me that she really likes validation...to be complimented. My question is, should I keep telling her that I love her? Should I compliment her and tell her how beautiful she is. This seems to be aganist DB techniques....
Also, she really likes her life up there and made no mention of moving back down here to be with me. Plus she has a year lease up there...and really enjoys hanging out wiht her girlfriends. No one yet, including her family, knows that "we are back together" so all of her girlfriends are still trying to set her up with men, go to bars etc. She has agreed to spend every other weekend with me.
I feel like I am so close and don't want to blow it. Any and all advice is greatly appreciated. One thing I do know is not to try to control anything (a problem before).
