HOnest to goodness, Cemar! You act like you have NEVER read one single post of Hp's before! You asked if her H mbates. She has said many times, and there has been an extensive discussion of the fact that he does not, for religious reasons.
I'm getting back to the theory that you are a group of Yalies and you take turns reading this board. So often your responses indicated that you have not read the whole thread. What's UP with that?????
For what it is worth, I only get blue balls if I've been aroused without release. If he's not getting aroused, then he won't probably have the ache.
Also, I find that my horniness seems to peak 2-3 days after last ML, after that it subsides. I guess it has to do with the inventory of the little swimmers on hand (...ugh, no not on hand...in the sack maybe? ). The body apparently reassimilates them if they are still around and it slows production of new ones. For me, once I get past about the 3-4 day point, lackanookie gets much easier to bear. Not that I get any less aroused when the situation presents itself, but it is no longer imperative and I can get to a take it or leave state....provided I don't go off and MB in the mean time.
--GGB, starting to see why the church says one should not spill the seed!
I think you are probably much like my H...who can go on for an indefinite period of time without showing any discomfort whatsoever (who also, like HP's hubby, doesn't MB.)
Fortunately for me...he's attempting to alter his behavior so that he shows me he loves me in a way that better suits my needs.
I understand that he won't get achy unless he gets aroused.
I do wish that he got aroused from my naked self half laying on him, stroking him. Sigh.
I will say this in MrHP's defense, though: His arousal is much easier when I am healthy. I think he is deathly afraid of hurting me. I don't blame him. Half the time I'm coming on to him, and the other half I'm flinching cause he just inadvertently rammed my backside whilst trying to snuggle.
However, even when I'm perfectly healthy, he doesn't seem to get aroused (physically speaking) until the THOUGHT of sex crosses his brain. Furthermore, this 'thought' is a very specific thought: Honey wants to ML. When he thinks to himself, I want to ML, it is much less powerful and arousing. Therefore, he tends to wait on me and my arousal to set the frequency, the tone and the pace of lovemaking.
Thank you for the erection tutorial. That was good info to have. If a boner fide HD guy can exist without nookie for weeks without tearing his hair out, then I guess it is not all that unusual that the Mr. does, also.
Quote: If a boner fide HD guy can exist without nookie for weeks without tearing his hair out, then I guess it is not all that unusual that the Mr. does, also.
Doh...looks like I already pulled most of it out!
Didn't say I don't miss it, just that once the 3-4 days goes by, I'm no longer so horny that even the crack of dawn looks good, LOL. I still get horny, but nothing like I am on days 2-4. I suspect with the self control MrHP has, it is perhaps easier to suppress those horny pangs or something, or maybe it just isn't that strong in him. Who knows, maybe I got a double helpin' of Testosterone or somethin'.
I suspect it has to do with his self control and his ability to ignore his body. This trait served him really well in the service.
We were talking the other night about boot camp. He said, Boot camp was no big deal to me. I was honestly SO disappointed in it because I had thought it would be a challenge, based on what everybody has always said about it. I would look at the other guys, crying and carrying on and think, What's the deal? It just wasn't that hard!
And you'd have to know MrHP to understand his tone of voice. He is never a braggart. He wasn't boasting..he was just recounting the experience and was mostly disappointed that it was so easy.
I was staring at him, trying to picture myself in boot camp and thinking it was easy. Couldn't do it. I think I am more "in tune" with my body's pain.
Although he did say, after watching me birth two children naturally, that he could NEVER do that and tolerate that amount of pain. So who knows.
I am the same way with the 2-4 days gone by thing. However, once an opportunity comes up, it's like I was never gone, lol. He is not like that. Once the 2-4 days is past, he misses it so little that it's hard to remind him why it worthy of missing. THEN, finally, when we're doing it he inevitably says something like, Why didn't we do this sooner?! (duh, I think, cause you didn't want to, ya idgit)
Anyway, I am hoping to have a good weekend. I feel like sh*t but I have a good attitude and love my family.
). The body apparently reassimilates them if they are still around and it slows production of new ones. For me, once I get past about the 3-4 day point, lackanookie gets much easier to bear. Not that I get any less aroused when the situation presents itself, but it is no longer imperative and I can get to a take it or leave state....provided I don't go off and MB in the mean time.
