Quote: This isn't exactly the right way to look at it, IMO.
And here is one of the issues, I guess...interpreting another's behavior according to what it would mean for us if we did it.
I think for me and my SO the problem is we BOTH don't take it personally enough. We both like sex and want it to be a part of our lives. But since being turned down for sex is not seen as a personal attack, we collectively lack that strong motivational personal push to keep us on track when other things get us off track. It's kept us from getting frustrated and angry with each other, which is good.
