In my head, I have this idea that having a man to desire me is my...birthright or something! It is not a gift, it is my RIGHT. I know this is screwed up thinking, but I've thought this way so long (do all women?) that it will take time to ditch it.
No, all women don't think this. (Only takes one not to think it to make the statement not true. ) But I think I would benefit from more of this kind of thinking so when you ditch it, toss some of it my way.
Add me to the women who don't think that. I would hazard a guess that most/many lower drive women don't. NOP's drive exists outside of me and my being. It is turned toward me and I impact it, but I am not the instigator of it. Which would explain why many LD folks entertain the idea that it's less about them and their desirability and more about their spouse and spouse's desires.
