Candy or sex, hmmm....My relatively LD married sister has weight issues. She told me I'm lucky I prefer sex to candy and other treats because at least that gives me a good motive for dieting. OTOH, my H has said that I'm dishonest when I say I prefer sex to candy because otherwise I would have lost weight years ago since it is a matter of conventional wisdom that overweight people are less sexually desirable.
My FIL has a serious sweet tooth but he is also a fitness fanatic (he biked across the country last year at 69). He is married to a professional baker so she constantly tempts him with baked goods all winter long, he gains weight, starts freaking out about the fact that he is getting out of shape and feels compelled to book himself on monthes long solo bike trips in order to get away from the baked goods and lose the weight. This causes a lot of stress in their marriage because there is no way his W is fit enough to even think about joining him on these excursions (They've only been married 6 years. This is my FIL's 3rd marriage).
Okay, I had a point here for you, HP. What was it? I know what would make you feel better about his answer. What if Mr.HP went to the doctor to find out how he might be more HD for sex and the doctor told him that he needed to cut back on the sugar in his diet. I bet he would cut back on the sugar in order to improve your situation. Just because your H suffers more physical deprivation symptoms when he gives up sugar than when he gives up sex doesn't mean he wants to crave sugar more than he craves sex.
BTW: I really think it is kind of amazing that your H can go so long without sex or MB. Do you think that during his years in seminary or the Marines he might have developed the ability to sort of "redigest" his sperm/semen. I think I read that some Yogis can do something like that.
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