I am terrible at asking for what I want, sexually. Any other area, and it is not a problem. I might be the most forthright person, and almost always kind, you'd ever meet.
I think part of it is pride..not wanting to HAVE to say, Hey would you place your hands between my legs for a while? And part of it is the fact that if I have to ask, the whole thing is not sexy to me, for some reason. I guess it is the whole pursuit angle. I want to be pursued and know that I have the ability to make him crazy. As it stands, I don't drive him crazy and he does not pursue me. Even during periods of long abstinence, he does not pursue me or get hard when I touch him. It mystifies me.
Last night, he got absolutely fcuking furious with me because I asked him: What was harder..giving up sweets for Lent, or giving up your wife?
The anger was totally inappropriate so I knew I had struck a nerve.
Imho, it is a sad day when a man misses chocolate more than his wife. He never would answer me, just got VERY mad at the question.
Anyway, we are conversing quite nicely today but I'm tired as all get out from the 4 am rendezvous.
