It really did hurt my feelings, only because of the subject matter. He KNOWS this subject is important to me and I would expect that, even if he were writing a "get her off my back" email, that he would have the sense to address it further when he arrived home. It's like he keeps screwing up and never learns from his mistakes. Is this possible? Can one person be this dense? I'm leaning towards "no" and that leaves only the explanation that he just doesn't care to talk about this subject, and doesn't care if it upsets me. What other conclusion can I draw?
However, MrHP often gets flustered and "get me off his back" responses are common around here. You'd think by reading that that I am a shrew of a wife who is always nagging him, or hounding him about something. My gosh, this could not be further from the truth! I am easygoing and fairly quiet (except when mad) but he cannot do two things at the same time. It is a bit of a running gag around here. He'll answer a question, I'll say "what?!" and he looks up at me with a blank expression..."what'd I just say?" I don't know if it's ADD or just AD (awfully dumb) but I've gotten used to it. So when he said he was just trying to get me off his back, it DID hurt my feelings but not crush them as it used to when we first married.
What hurt more was that he was flirting in his email and then it turns out that it was a thoughtless gesture and I got all excited, like a chump!
