Well, your H isn't exactly unresponsive to you. He's just not as responsive as you want him to be in the way you want him to be when you want him to be. If he were COMPLETELY unresponsive, that would be a different conversation.
As for why you might want to feel better, or move off dead center, or shift your feelings on this subject, I have two answers:
1. Because his behavior is a recurring source of annoyance, which is a signal that there's a root to be explored and exploring it could lead to growth (a desirable outcome), and
2. To see what's on the other side.
Besides, I didn't say that exploring your feelings WOULD lead to you no longer being annoyed by his level of responsiveness, I said it MIGHT, and that the prospect that it MIGHT could possibly be reason enough not to do it.
Actually, I have no idea where it might lead, but I believe it will lead to a Good Place, because that kind of exploration has ALWAYS led to a Good Place for me. (See #2 above.)
