I can completely relate to how you are feeling right now. I'm in a similar situation where my W is taking advantage of a situation here to avoid anything sexual. And while I have to keep telling myself that "she does not have natural sexual feelings...deal with it" , I still can't help but resent the hell out of her. It's like she has a sprained ankle and wants me to push her around in a wheelchair indefinitely rather than try to do some minimal amount of work to stand on her own. I'm not looking for her to run a marathon, just stand on her own feet and stop depending on me to initiate 100% of the time. honey, ya, you deserve some whacks, but maybe with a whiffle ball bat instead.

The tough thing is that I'm really starting to be less attracted to her the more I tell my self "this is just who she is". Before, I had "hope" that she would change. But now that I've been thoroughly brainwashed by my C, I can no longer live in delusional bliss that she will become more sexual. Not that things can't work under these circumstances but we are so different in so many ways that it's just plain hard to deal with one more thing.

Anyway, I think I'm going to give her unlimited space and see if she initiates (or even notices). The problem is that I will have a really hard time being sweet and f-able the longer I wait.

Yep, I'm not feeling good right now. Maybe it's the fact that I have a pretty bad cold. Honey, I'm not meaning to hijack your thread, I just wanted you to know that these feelings probably happen to all of us regardless.


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