Choc,
I just realized what I want:

I want him to miss me.

That's it.

He really doesn't and it pisses me off.

See what a mess I can be. Every time I think I'm gettin it together, some new realization hits me and I know that I have a ways to go.

I think he intellectually misses me...and is eager to ML again, but it is no skin off his back, really it's not. It is a huge sacrifice for me and something that is daily on my mind. For him it is twinges that he feels occasionally and finds pretty easy to ignore.

I want to be married to someone who does not find it easy to ignore me.