Choc, Thank you! I've been in a contemplative and spiritual mood all week, due to the Pope's death, and this is just what I needed to hear. I have never heard that song but the lyrics are very comforting.
Just wanted you to know I hope everything goes well with your surgery. Your situation has been making me think about the question someone brought up about how would a HDW deal with it if her H was paralyzed or otherwise physically unavailable. I answered that I would be okay with it as long as I knew he still had an appreciation for sexuality. To be graphic, I would rather MB in front of a paralyzed man who really wants to experience my pleasure than have sex with a fully functional H who is only doing it out of a sense of duty. I guess my point is it seems to me that you are every bit as HD as you ever were even though you don't actually want to have sexual intercourse probably in part due to hormones but also probably due to the fact that you are just accustomed to thinking of yourself as a sex-loving person kind of like Beethoven was still a music-lover even after he went deaf.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
Yes, ma'am, I'm currently deaf but I have a goooooooood memory. Besides, being HD or LD is largely in your mind, for us females at least. I doubt there is much hormonal difference between me and my LD sister.
I miss sex. I think about it. I want to be sexual with H, though we can't have intercourse. I need skin contact. I like to look at his beautiful body.
So while there are no flickers of actual desire (or perhaps a more accurate thing to say is that, by now, I have trained myself to not 'go there' since I can't do anything about it), my self image as a sexy person is still alive and well.
And on that note, I'm off to do the dishes. Oooh I bet that statement got all the fellas riled up. LOL
Thanks for the wishes, JJ. My surgery has been scheduled for the 18th and I'd appreciate kind thoughts on the morning of my infectionectomy as our hilarious CN described it.
I don't mind the sun sometime
The images it shows
I can taste you on my lips
And smell you in my clothes
Cinnamon and Sugar
And softly spoken lies
You never know just how you look
Through someone elses eyes
BHS-"Pepper"
HP posted
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I need skin contact.
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HP, I have trouble convincing my W/BB, that "I" and I think most need this too.
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I'm off to do the dishes. Oooh I bet that statement got all the fellas riled up. LOL
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I am so excited I am going to get my pick and shovel and dig up a scratchy everegreen bush.
Quote: And on that note, I'm off to do the dishes. Oooh I bet that statement got all the fellas riled up. LOL
I tease my wife, whenver she is doing dishes and cleaning the counters and she has those yellow Playtex gloves on. "Oooh, baby, you've got those gloves on again ... don't you know what those do to me??"
My H was teasing me last night that if my LL were to suddenly morph into his (IOW, if we would reverse) that he'd be cleaning dust bunnies from under the couch to demonstrate his love for me (he was saying this with a groan, as if he was mocking his own LL).
I then asked what he would want ME to do for him, assuming his LL was physical touch, and he blanked. Could not think of one thing.
Honey--I wish I could convey how hard I'm laughing?
Quote: I then asked what he would want ME to do for him, assuming his LL was physical touch, and he blanked. Could not think of one thing.
That's because he'd have to own up to the solution he presented... LOL. BTW, the title of your thread also has my humor bone engaged--you have a way with words!
Methinks you've given him some food for thought, though. Let him mull on this one? I hope he decides to give you an answer. Some day. Soon....
Betsey
p.s. You're in my thoughts and prayers for the upcoming surgery... hope you come through with smooth sailing.
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
