Hi all! What a nice way to wake up this morning, with lots of well wishing messages.
Quote: What does a straight thinking Honeypot sound like?
Hell if I know, Casey! LOLOL
Quote: Perhaps it was God's way of getting you to pay attention to the non-sexual parts of your relationship or something
This is H's theory. In fact, he posited this question to me: What is the purpose of this trial in our lives, do you think? I replied, with a good deal of trepidation, the following: For my end, I think it is to learn how to relate in a kind and loving way, despite the fact that my numero uno need is going unmet, for an indefinite period of time. For your end, H, I think it is so that you can learn how to dig deep and discover that sexy guy within you, without relying on ME to always extract him out. Since I'm out of commission, you are left to deal with your own horniness by yourself and figure out what to do with it and how you want to be.
I was nervous as allgetout because of these last sentences. My H likes to hear more cerebral reasons and lofty theological ideas about trials from God--not that God wants him to get his mojo back. So I was VERY surprised, nay shocked, when he wrote back and said, That's amazing! I think your analysis is right on the money.
Cemar, My H's drive runs about twice a week. The extra one is for me, his sweetiepot and the funny thing with him is that lotsa sex usually results in him wanting it every day. He is very cyclical..if we are having tons of sex, he wants tons of sex. But the first day we take off, he's less horny the next day. And even less horny the day after that, until pretty soon it is a physical urge that he ignores quite easily. I have no doubt that, for him, the desire to get close to ME is what drives him to pursue sex and not so much any physical longing. That is secondary.
As far as him being HD, yeah, I think he would be the HD partner with a different wife. He still would not act like a 'typical' HD guy does...grabby, gropey, making comments, suggesting sex, THINKING about sex, etc. His actions are more along the LD side of the behavior continuum, although he has changed a lot in this regard. I'd say he is currently moving towards the Ultra Polite HD Fella side of the spectrum. Think of the way you acted on your first date with your wife, provided that you were a gentlemen LOL, and that is how he is all the time with me. I can see the desire in him but he is very hesitant to do anything with it, unless I 'go first' and give the green light. He has told me numerous times that if I'd turn him down and make it less available that he'd have more of a natural hunger for it, but I so far haven't figured out an authentic way to go about that.
Anyway, thanks all for the well wishes. I am anxious to get the surgery underway and get this over with. The infection is way up in my body..there are no signs on the actual squeezy bits (that's for you, HD:) so surgery it is. I am anxious to be cleared for active duty (LOL) but I gotta tell you folks that I am also skeered to death that it will come right back. H asked last night if we'd get started on the One Night On, One Night Off program as soon as I'm healthy and I jokingly told him that after 4 months of illness I think it should be One Night On, One Night On, repeat, haha. My mother had a terrible time with an infection in her body, after her last child, and had to have a hysterectomy (at age 23, no less). So I am thankful that technology has advanced to the point that I can have a relatively minor procedure done and accomplish the same thing. The doc did mention that I would most probably be permanently infertile after having this done. So it looks like H will be stuck with 4 women running his life for the rest of his days. Ah well, there are worse fates to befall a man, right.
Oh and Lassie, that was a hilarious story about your wee lad. I was crackin up. Now the fun really starts huh. For a while we had to put up the baby gate in the door of D5's room so that she would stop with the midnight rendezvous as well. We kept the door open but the gate up and she'd stand there and say, Lemme OUT.........lol. Btw, when did he turn two? I am used to him being one or 18 mos!
