The Neverending Crap Sandwich

[honeypot]

I found out today that I need to have (minor) surgery to rid my body of this infection. Then I will need to stay in the hospital for 2 more days of IV antibiotics. Doctor said this is the worst infection he has seen in 10 years. I am so fed up with this decrepit body of mine, I can't even think straight.

Things are going relatively well, otherwise. H continues to amaze me with his insight into his personality and how it impacts our relationship. I am becoming more and more daring with what I say to him, expecting a not-so-enthusiastic reaction and he is surprising me every time.
He seems to be getting into a space where MrsNOP has been for a while, where instead of becoming overwhelmed or just plain sick of R talk, he is becoming interested by the whole process...of how we ended up where we are, how we resolved a lot of our issues and what we will do from here. And also interested in discovering what our differences are and what our strengths/weaknesses are, etc.

The phases look like this, in our situation:

1. He ignores my pleas for more sex and intimacy.
2. He listens but gets pissed when I bring it up.
3. He softens a bit and says he will "try to do better".
4. He gets mad that I am not overjoyed with his efforts and STILL want more.
5. He is sick of talking about it and having it take such a high priority in our lives but he is resigned that I am not giving up on it. He continues to "try" with various levels of effort.
6. His setbacks and failures are lessening and the successes are at least equal.
7. His general level of happiness increases as he feels himself becoming successful at meeting my needs.
8. His successes far outweigh the failures and we feel secure in our R.
9. Talking about issues, right away, is very easy and resentment is not a big issue any longer.
10. He spends a fair amount of time reflecting back on the "olden days".
11. He is interested in the whole process and finds it all fascinating. The idea of reading a R book no longer fills him with dread and p*ssiness. He wants to learn more.

There is, of course, a whole list of things that happened on my end too, but that is not the purpose of this post. I'm no longer sure what the purpose of this post IS, lol, so I will sign off.

I feel like I sat down to try and force down ONE crap sandwich and instead some "loaves and fishes" thing happened and they have multiplied without end.

Thank you to NOP for the colorful description regarding the sandwich and my current feelings about life.

Honeypot

[csw]

HP,
NTBG, but it sounded like a tasty crap sandwich to me. At least the knife weilders are offering some relief from your pain. (after some more pain)

That list of sandwich condiments started out in Helmann's jar(IMO), and ended up next to the roasted red peper, garlic and jalapeno spread.

I will keep you in my paryers for your surgery! I hope they knock that infection right out!

What does a straight thinking Honeypot sound like?

[GonnaGoBlind]

HP,

That's awful (the infection). Gosh, I hope this gets it squared away. You certainly don't deserve it. Perhaps it was God's way of getting you to pay attention to the non-sexual parts of your relationship or something (but what a crappy way to do it, eh?). Glad to hear about (and perhaps slightly jealous) the progress you and Mr HP are making. I'm praying for a quick recovery for you. I guess maybe teh good news is they know what is causing the pain now, right?

[Lina]

Ickiness aside, I'm really glad that your H is moving more and more into a positive space. *gives a big happy hug*

And hope the ickiness goes away asap. /-:

[InherJourney]

((((HP)))) Thinking of you and hope you are all better soon...even through all this, youre spirit comes through.

Good news with the hubby!

xoxo,

IHJ

[annette]

HP

Sorry for the health issues, but you will take care of it and come out an even better Honeypot!!!!!!!!!

Keep on truckin

Annette

[Greeneyedlass]

Honeypot,

H continues to amaze me with his insight into his personality and how it impacts our relationship. I am becoming more and more daring with what I say to him, expecting a not-so-enthusiastic reaction and he is surprising me every time.
He seems to be getting into a space where MrsNOP has been for a while, where instead of becoming overwhelmed or just plain sick of R talk, he is becoming interested by the whole process...of how we ended up where we are, how we resolved a lot of our issues and what we will do from here. And also interested in discovering what our differences are and what our strengths/weaknesses are, etc.

I swear our husbands are cut from the same mold just about

I'm so frustrated for you that your infection is hanging on and this it's going to take surgery to hopefully rid you of it...but I'll keep my fingers crossed for you and keep you in my prayers too.

Here's something that should make you smile though...our nearly 2-yr old son (Ian, another red-head ) just learned to crawl out of his crib last night. At 2:00am this morning he comes toddling into our room and shouts HI!!!!!

We're all pulling for ya!!
GEL

[sat567]

{{{HP}}} I hope they take care of everything that has been causing you pain in your squeezy bits (one of my favorite expressions of yours).

Praying for your speedy recovery and return to active duty.

Hairdog

[KEBall]

((((HP))))
You deserve to be well and happy! It sounds like the happy is coming along. My prayers are with you on getting well.

K

[CeMar]

Honeypot:

I thought I read here recently where you said your hubby is in the mood about 3 times a week. Did I get this wrong? If he is a 3 times a week guy then aren't you both HD, just that one is higher then the other? Or does he get horny far less then this? Please set me straight.