I think there are different pain levels in people. I wax my whole nether region
Well I don't do it, but I have a skin care specialist do it. Except for H has not worked since last Oct and funds are slim. Anyway waxing for me only hurts for a minute and the benefits totally outweigh the pain.
That got a HUGE laugh out of me LOL. I would never ask him to wax, I know personally how painful that can be and wouldn't put him through that. It's actually up to him, I'll voice my preference when asked, which is at least to keep things trimmed up...not necessarily completely shaved...but neat & trimmed.
Quote: Remind me again now..what's the deal with the scheduled sex? Is that still on, or did you scrap it?
I'ts on the shelf for right now. But I have been toying with putting it back in effect. You know...one of those things where the timing was ok the first time...but now it may be better.
Previously I think he bucked the schedule...he felt that I was "controlling" him w/it, that's why he started to come up with reasons around the 1st of the year to avoid it. That was a frustrating point for me...but it was right about that time that our insurance changed, which caused us to change his therapist to our now new couples counselor who we really like.
Since he stopped seeing his IC he has initiated on his own too...and his behavior is beginning to become much more sexual in nature around me too (as I've been letting you all know ). So I really have been toying with bringing up the "schedule" again, but I think this time I will take this approach. I will pick one night for me....the other night he can choose and it can be any day of the week. That way it can float if he wishes and he will have control over the when aspect of it.
This whole guys shaving thing is confusing me. I don't understand what would be made more sensitive by doing this. Maybe this is because I am married to a redhead and I no longer possess an accurate visual image of what a hairy guy looks like down there since I haven't had sex with a hairy guy since 1987.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
My H says he can get farther inside. I don't know if this is accurate or not.
Also I think there is the issue of ball slappage, which we both like.
What a hilarious conversation! And it is quite weird to be conversing about these things without a trace of horniness. Physical pain sure does have a way of eliminating my natural mojo.
He doesn't shave often, maybe 3 times a year. I am not overly fond of the looks of it, either, but it is novel and is usually a surprise. Plus, it tells me that his mind was in a sexual place and that is always a pleasant shock.
It's actually up to him, I'll voice my preference when asked, which is at least to keep things trimmed up...not necessarily completely shaved...but neat & trimmed.
). So I really have been toying with bringing up the "schedule" again, but I think this time I will take this approach. I will pick one night for me....the other night he can choose and it can be any day of the week. That way it can float if he wishes and he will have control over the when aspect of it.