I can't believe I'm finally going to say this...but my LDH is finally breaking through his sexual shell!!!
He's beginning to talk about sex in a way he hasn't done before (with interest), he's beginning to do things in a sexual manner too. Last night he was taking a soak in the tub and asked me to come in and sit with him to talk. Normally, when he takes a soak he likes privacy (keeps doors closed etc)...not this time, he wanted me to spend some time with him. He even brought up the idea of shaving himself (sorry if that's TMI for some of you) and made a distinct point to let me know he'd never done that before....so he was basically trying to find out if I would like that...I told him I would, very much and if he was up for it...I'd be happy to do it for him.
We talked about soooo many things...the conversation went back and forth between normal everyday things...to sex, to friends, to sex, to whatever and back to sex. For once I sat back and didn't guide the conversation either...I let him do it, so any time sex was brought up, he did it! YEAH!!!
We even talked about what he likes me to wear...which was informative for me of course, considering I've asked several times in the past but he never would tell me...I'm sure because he thought he'd hurt my feelings because he knows I want to lose some lbs and I'm a bit sensitive about it; but I'm the type of woman that if I ask him a question like that...I'm not going to get huffy if he gives me his honest opinion. Anyway...he told me his preferences on lingere etc, so we made a deal. When I get down to what I call my "fighting weight" LOL (and I am committed to doing this)...he's going to take me shopping and HE can pick out what he likes for me to wear.
To top the evening off...he actually came to bed in the nude too This is a man who seems to be sooo attached to his tightie-whities it's not even funny...who goes out of his way to avoid being seen naked. I was getting definite signals he wanted some action of some type...unfortunately it's that time of the month for me...BUT that won't stop me...he did get a very nice sensual massage and BJ ;-)
I keep posting these updates because I want those of you who are just beginning this process to see that you can make it through, things can get better...don't give up!!
It's taken us a good year to get to this point finally. It's taken learning to communicate with each other and learning what each others needs are (and meeting them)...and it seems that since the real progress began happening about 2 months ago that it has started to pick up speed steadily.
I firmly believe now that this time next year I will be able to confidently post a success story in full, I can not wait for that day! I have to give my H quite a bit of credit though...he's been doing some hard work, why? Because he LOVES me!!!
This is a man who seems to be sooo attached to his tightie-whities it's not even funny...who goes out of his way to avoid being seen naked. I was getting definite signals he wanted some action of some type...unfortunately it's that time of the month for me...BUT that won't stop me...he did get a very nice sensual massage and BJ ;-)
