Our kids have not been officially informed. Although, I'm sure that they know somethings not quite right with mom and dad. My wife didn't come home tonight b/c of her feelings for the OM. Fortunately, we have a great mutual friend whom she called instead of him. Her friend is with her now. (3:18 am!) Anyway, My initial 180 was before I had read any of Michele's work. I just started to accept that things were going in the wrong direction because she had never indicated a desire otherwise. She started to realize what it woul dbe like to be a part. I saw her watching me playing with the kids in the pool and she watched for quite a while. I think watching us made her think of our family and the way we used to be. I would like to focus on having "fun" with the kids so that can witness it and be included if desired. It has been 1 week since she told the OM not to contact her and vica versa. She has been miserable for the past 2 days. Part of our issues stem from her trying to discover herself. She has been instrumental in helping me with my career and she feels she doesn't know who she is. A thought I had for another 180 was to ask lots of open ended questions about her different avenues of interest. She has a great interest in the personal training industry as well as a great relationship with her previous employer. She has been volunteering her time for him and really works well with him. Because she feels that I squelched her self-discovery process, (which I had no intentions of doing) I thought this appraoch may be refreshing to her. It's really difficult to muster the composer however, when I know she's thinking of the OM. What'dya think?
