Quote: If you had no children and if she didn't go out on you balanced slate if you will, would you still be interested in her? and why?
As a single, available man just meeting her and knew she had no children nor husband, would you be interested in her to date? Why, why not?
Quote: Now add back the children, the In-laws and the infidelity, and ask the same question but with a twist. "If you were the one that she came to as the "other male" would you be interested in her with her "baggage"?
Look at the pieces of your relationship independently, then add blend them together again. When it comes to the children do you have any reason to believe that they would be in danger if you seperated? How do you think your involvement with them would change if you seperated?
What is the climate best case if you stayed married for the rearring of children? Realistically? Worst case?
Pity me that the heart is slow to learn
What the swift mind beholds at every turn.
Edna St. Vincent Millay
