Thank you both for giving me some advice GEL and NOpkins,
Over the weekend I did pick up SSM after I had emailed my W the first chapter and she said that it sounded interesting and that she would be open to reading it. As for the affair, we have talked at length about what caused her to go wayward and I do know what I was responsible for as far as the bad things in our marriage before the affair and she has taken 100% of the blame for having the affair. She knows that it was stupid, wrong and way out of character for her. She also knos that she is to blame for many of the issues that we are dealing with including sex. She also knows that sex is an important issue for me. What's funny is that she has observed and said something about the fact that the more sex that we have the better moods I am in all of the time. YOu think that would clue her in a little bit. I am not saying that I need it all of the time to be in a good mood just more often than we do ML. It will be a slow process and considering what I went thru before this is not going to be nearly as bad or exruciating to deal with. Thanks again.
