I know how frustrating this is, believe me...I went round and round with my LDH on it. That is why I am so convinced she doesn't really "get it". My H would tell me he knew I had a problem w/the way things were...but he did nothing to change it, even though he told me he'd "fix the problem". He really, truly didn't get it until I told him I wouldn't stay in a M where I was virtually celibate.
I know this sounds lame, but women here in the states are often brought up to believe exactly what her friends are telling her. So she very likely thinks that she is behaving pefectly normal and that YOU have the problem. This is very common, so don't despair.
I think it's great that she's willing to go to a MC w/you, this is a good thing....I also think it's good that the C wants to meet w/her on her own...he should probably meet w/you too and may request that. He needs to get to know both of you individually...because he will find that each of you will say things when the other isn't around, which gives him a better picture of the real issues.
Pick up SSM, I think you will be very suprised at it...and if she's open to MC w/you, she may be open to the book too. I think for her it may be an eye-opener and something to work with at the very least. Also, have you read the 5 Love Languages...if you haven't pick it up...each of you should take the test in the back.
