HOW TO "NOT GET BAITED" into an OR talk!!!!

[Becca1975]

I think the BIGGEST key to not getting baited is to see it for what it really is. BAIT. Countless times I've fell into conversations because I thought he really wanted to talk about our R or because he would throw something hurtful out there. Once you realize it is a test of sorts and that he is just throwing some bait out there to see how you'd react, it is easier to resist.

My H did it heavily at first and still does it to some extent. I've heard lots of comments lately about how he needs a new bed, about how he has to get his own place and move out of his cousins, heck every time he refers to his cousins house as "home" I want to explode.

Instead, I've learned to see it as bait and to just continue with whatever I was speaking about ignoring the fact that he even said anything at all.