I can't answer the question of how not to get baited. I'm better at how to get baited.
Actually my WAW would often ask "how are you doing?" and I thought she was just being polite. I would say "good. How bout you?" or something like that and move on. She later told me when we did get down to a real R talk that what she was asking was "how am I doing with this separation, etc." That's my only times of not being baited.
What has generally got to me was when she pushed the D a little harder. She would use the "you've moved on and so have I so let's get this over with" type argument. It's pretty hard not to at least say "I haven't moved on. I still want an US". Pushing the D button has pretty much worked every time. My problem is how to avoid getting into a R talk...saying I still want the marriage, etc...when she starts the conversation with let's get the ball rolling along on this D. Or should I even avoid the R talk? I sometimes feel that she uses it specifically to see if I still want us together...kind of like reassurance that I'm still available. Any thoughts?
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