H and I finished watching the DVD last nite. The last part talks about how to have a constructive conversation. She asks the audience to chime in on ways to have a bad convo ( things like having a bad attitude, eye rolling, criticizing, same-calling, etc. were mentioned) and then she goes over tips for better communication. A few things that stuck out for me were: be specific and stick to the point, leave the past in the past, ignore "zingers", remember that he/she has heard you, and take a time out if things escalate.
She lists her 4 golden rules of love: 1. Do real giving 2. People need hugs the most when they deserve them the least 3. Don't forget to laugh 4. Forgiveness is a gift you give yourself
She ends the seminar by repeating the message of having an open heart, and then has the group do a relaxation exercise, closing their eyes and visualizing the early, happy days of their relationship. When the DVD ended my H and I were very quiet with each other...I felt touched by it and drained at the same time...we made a few comments and went to sleep. This am he made tea for us and lit a candle and had some superficial talk. I think we're trying to absorb how to be nicer and better to each other...hopefully we'll figure out a way to make it last and it will become easier.
So HP...the DVD is all yours...let me know how to get in touch with you to send it off.
