We watched a little more of the DVD( getting there, HP).
You all here on the BB are already experts on this part...how just one person can change the dynamics of the relationship by changing your own actions. Michele says, " Tip over the first domino" and make the first move towards change; don't whine about being the one to have to go first...if you start, you will get in return. Learn to push your partner's buttons in a positive way...be aware of his/her responses to what you do.
She then goes through a discussion of "cheeseless tunnels"...expecting to have good results because it may have worked before or because you think you are right. Avoid doing " more of the same" in which the thing you do to solve a problem becomes the problem. Do what works...if it's not working, then change.
She has the couples do an exercise, and then one couple discusses an issue and she has the group come up with new ideas to help solve the problem. H and I could have paused the tape and worked on our own stuff but we just passively watched,lol. We are getting along well but not feeling particularly passionate, so we will wait for Sat to ML ( the schedule takes over...such a good idea, ty Nop). We went to bed in cuddle mode.
