We watched a little of the DVD last night. This part was about gender differences and how they affect the marriage. Michele prefaces her comments by saying these are generalities and may work the opposite way in some marriages. The basic points are: Women want to connect verbally and talk about feelings; men are more action oriented and avoid "feelings talk." Women work with both sides of the brain simultaneously, while men tend to focus on one thing at a time and find it hard to be interrupted. Women want to have a good EC going before having sex, while men want the physical connection first which leads to the EC, and how this dynamic alone has brought down many marriages.
The tape is slanted towards the HDH/ LDW POV as Michele discusses her H's strong priority for sex...in a few places she discusses her H's physicality and his red-blooded Amercian male behavior. Part of me was concerned that my H would feel inadequte hearing how typical men behave, and part of me wanted him to hear it ( be a typical man and ravish me).
Anyway, the point Michele makes is that the problem isn't the differences, it's the blaming and lack of problem solving that go along with the differences, and I think that's true no matter what the issues are.
Next, she was going to discuss solutions, but the first DVD ended so we stopped there. We did end up ML last nite which was nice.
