Lil... I am realizing that even though I think I am a decent person who was doing a decent job of being a good spouse, the fact of the matter is that the results weren't showing that...my H and I were unhappy for yrs. It's like I could fool myself into thinking I am doing a good job eating the right foods, doing exercise, etc. but if the scale still says the weight is up, then something is wrong.
I feel I have learned a lot from many different resources...PM helped me to strengthen myself ( I will lose weight even if H is bringing home doughnuts), UL principles can help calm me down when I am having extreme anxiety ( in this analogy, stopping myself from bingeing when I am not hungry) and learning Michele's techniques are helping me set goals, stay with whats working, make changes as neeeded and be positive. I see JJ's new way of being passively HD as "doing a 180"...she hasn't changed her basic nature, just her approachand is monitoring her results here. I guess that's what I am trying to say...I am still me with all my intense feelings, but I am thinking more about making changes that will bring measurable successs, and that's what Michele's program offers.
