Ioavva is Greek for Joanna (pronounced E U Anna) as I am Greek and my name is Joanna except everyone calls me Jo. I was ocassionally called Yanna as a child (Greek for Jo).
I have an earlier thread, called 'Hello - my story.'
My H and I went through a custody battle which lasted 2 years nearly and through the year I went 'dark' I did not see him at all, just at court. I started going 'dark' in June 03. He got an OW in November 03 and I had 4 one night stands and a 'fling' as a result of finding out about OW.
The kids were dropped off by OW, not H, so I didn't see him at all. I also blocked him on the computer so he couldn't email me and I changed my phone number. If I needed to communicate about the kids, I wrote to OW, not him. It was truly over and I was devastated, but trying to work through my grief with my life-coach and by doing lots of GAL work.
I wouldn't say I liked it, but by the end of that year, I had come to a point where I thought I could move on without him and be happy without him and then he came back into my life.
If OW was not available, I asked friends to facilitate the child-handovers. I really didn't want anything to do with him at the time.
In June 04 - a year after giving him the silent treatment, he came round to my house in tears, saying his life was a mess and he'd just got OW to try and convince people he was 'moving on' and it was all an act. He missed me, missed my sex etc.
I then let him sleep with me with the primary purpose of breaking up him and OW. I rang her after the event and told her everything and emailed her my (sexually explicit) diary of the event.
She and him then split up and I gave him more time to figure out what he wants from his life. I was 'grey' with him for another 6 months (minimal and to the point contact) and then at the beginning of December last year he started coming round again on a just friends basis but I knew he wanted me.
On 16th December which was our 9th wedding anniversary, he said 'happy wedding anniversary' and that's when I knew it was more than friendship. We had a family day together over Christmas (the first time since our split) an on 30th December I slept with him again.
We have been dating ever since and last Monday he said ILY for the first time in 3 years!
We consider that we are a couple despite the D and are working towards moving in and having a commitment ceremony at some point in the future to publically commit to each other in front of others.
