Ha! Yep, there are a lot of us Catholics on the BB, aren't there. Know that not judging others is HUGE in this faith, as in many others. I've learned, and S5 has picked up on his own a a big theme lately, that forgiveness is another important ability - both for self and others. How can we accept God's forgiveness if we fail to provide it to self or others? W was taught to harbor the mistakes of others. Literally, for the past 5 years, W has kept a list of my sins or mistakes in our R by/on her nightstand, and books focusing on my mistakes. MIL and FIL do not speak to any of their siblings due to such grudge-holding. Anyway, S5 and I have talked several times about forgiving "7 times 70 times" because he is stuck on W not forgiving me (this must come from their convos, b/c I don't bring it up).
S5 has shown me a few of his erections, as these surprise him. A good friend at work told me how his 4yo woke him up last weekend pointing his little erection at his dad's face, waking him up excitedly, "Dad, look!" Kind a surprising thing to see at first light, no? This must be the male version of what you'll go thru, over and over and over!
Your description of H's fears mirror my W's. I pictured him wearing a full body condom (like in the 80s movie "Naked Gun"). She would literally act like I was about to burn her with hot oil when I climaxed, trying to jump off. We did try for some time to conceive using NFP, but it didn't work. That was fun! Then, when we stopped trying (literally the next day or so), it happened (I think she relaxed).
Kind a surprising thing to see at first light, no? This must be the male version of what you'll go thru, over and over and over! 