Ex-OW sleeps in his cellar, Gabriel, with her bf aged 24.
She moved from Ipswich (5 hours away) to be with my H, then after 6 months he told her he didn't love her and just wanted to be friends, but she'd given up her house for him so she was then homeless.
He needed a nanny and housekeeper and she needed a roof over her head so he let her convert his cellar into a bedroom and lets her bf stay there in exchange for cleaning and babysitting. She is on a list waiting to move back to Ipswich and my H will be moving himself; we have discussed it and plan to move together if our R works out.
I know there is nothing going on as Ex-OW was crying on the phone to me when he told her he didn't love her and after she found out he'd been to me, she didn't want him anyway.
She came to my house and told me personally that they are only friends. I have spoken to her bf 24 also and my kids talk about him all the time. In the house there are my 3 kids, EX-OW and bf in the cellar, ex-ow's dd aged 17 yrs, and ex-ow's ds, aged 14 yrs, so it's a bit like living on a commune.
H has asked me over there so that him, me, ex-ow and her bf can hang out together and have beer and watch dvd's but I said no because I am shy of ex-ow and her bf.
I don't mind her at all, I actually quite like the woman despite her previous involvement with my H. She's really quite a lonely person and some of her interests are similar to mine so when I've spoken to her, I have found it difficult to dislike her.
She wants to become proper friends with me and wanted to invite me to Ipswich when she goes, but I wasn't sure if I ought to so I emailed her and said I'll think about it.
H tells me she is upset with me because I was luke warm about being her friend so I reckon maybe I will email her and apologise. She's quite sensitive. It's just unusual because most ex-ow's wouldn't want to be friend's with the W. She has always said since she broke up with him that it's a shame we couldn't have met in different circumstances as she really likes me. Against my better judgement, the feeling is mutual.
She feels really annoyed though and used like a servant and isn't so thrilled with the free rent for housework arrangement. She has been telling him to deal with it more and more as it really isn't her business anymore.
He's been talking about charging her a rent instead until she gets her new place, but I reckon that's a bit cheeky since she's in the cellar!
Oh well, our unorthodox sitch will sort itself eventually. I must say, I don't know how it is she gets these young men. She's 46 and her bf is 24, which is only a year older than her oldest son!
Yes we do support each other in our career. H has always been very supportive of my work (apart from when we first split up and we disagreed over who would claim the business).
It's one of the things he likes about me the most, because he says I'm clever and talented etc, which is really nice to hear, especially post-D
Re the housework remark, I kinda said it in a jokey way. Wasn't really expecting acknowledgement.
Yes, I number my dd's differently. When I came on here, I didn't check to see how others do it so I didn't change it afterwards as I'd already posted like that.
I put them as DD's 1, 2, 3 and 4 (as in daughters number 1, 2, 3 and 4).
Daughter 1, who was born first, is obviously oldest at 9 yrs of age. Daughter 2 is aged 7 yrs, Daughter 3 is aged 5 yrs and Daughter 4 (who lives with me) is aged 2 yrs.
