Oh no, Andy Pandy would go CRAZY if he thought I had another man, and he'd be so angry it'd wreck the DB'ing if he even thought that.
I did actually sleep with a 46 year old once, when I was 26 and even though he was living with OW and having an ocassional SL with her (once a month, she later told me), he displayed all the classic reactions:
Betrayal - 'How could you do this to me?' (when he was living with OW, go figure!).
Anger at his lack of control: 'This isn't you, you don't do one night stands' and 'I'm NEVER getting back with you EVER again!'
Sexual Insecurity: 'I can't sleep with you now, you've had another man, I can't even go there' (said when he had OW!).
He would alternate between extreme hostility and nastiest to being 'civil' but with sad looking eyes and the warning 'don't talk to me about your life' because he didn't want to know about any bf's!
It would be over forever if I even PRETENDED to have another guy, although given his 'I don't know if I can be faithful' remark, I have been wondering whether to tell him I won't be either, until we work this out.
My gut instinct is to ignore the remark, but just tell him less about my life when he asks, not to let him sleep with me every time he wants and I have taken off my necklace to test if that approach works.
It was his - one of those chunky gold chain ones for men and he wore it every day for 8 years, then took it off when we split up. I got rid of my rings straight away, but took his necklace and I have worn it all the time for the last 3 years. I don't even take it off when I'm in the shower. Well, I took it off yesterday. Still love him the same, but I thought that might jolt him a little if he notices me without it.
If it backfires, I shall put it back on, but it's worth a try, so he knows he doesn't own me
As for re-marriage, it wouldn't be re-marriage in the legal sense as he would never do that anymore, not with me or anyone else. It would be a commitment ceremony but that to me would be my 'marriage' and I'd still have a ring.
That's a long way off in the future, but I still focus on it as one of my long-term goals.
