If I stop accomdoating this guy I've lost my H, my R with the kids will probably be obiterated (I'm not going through all that fighting over them again) - he is get even more critical if he's not in an R with me and apart from anything else, which I think you are missing, I LOVE THIS GUY.
Always have, always will, and I sure as hell aren't going to waste all that time from 16 years old, 1 year of life-threatening depression, 2 years of DB'ing and FINALLY, I am dating him.
I'm not throwing it away now when I've waited years to even get to this point.
What about all the times early in our R when I controlled him instead of the other way around? He put up with it for years, he stuck by me through all my medical problems. They told me they thought I had cirvical (sp?) cancer once and he was with me through the testing and all the procedures they put me through to find out what it was (it wasn't cancer, thank God) - so now for the first time in years he has his own problems and I'm not going to walk off and leave him to it when he helped me with mine.
I'll only walk off if he tells me to walk off or if he moves away without me. Otherwise, I am staying and working on this R. I am lucky I've got one at all in my circumstances. Most divorced people haven't.
