Quote: Not a good day. I loused up DB'ing, and now I'll be stuck in tomorrow.
Jo, you see it as fouling up, I see at it as you working and bumping in to the ceiling (old comfortable limits you or your H has) and want to raise the ceiling (ceiling is not high enough now) you want more from and give more to the relationship.
Jo, I see why you might feel you fouled up but I don't see any really bad foul ups. Both of you guys were dealing with internal emotional stuff. Talking like this and not blowing up (row type of ending) is a sign of progress. Do you think everything has to end perfectly? Not in the real world unless one of you assumes the doormat role or wants things to go on the way they did last month.
Quote: why did she pick a cripple for a mother?? Other mothers could have just taken her skating without needing another person there
More irrational talk Jo. Kids grow up and are well adjusted with parents who have fewer skills and assetts than you have. I understand you wanting to be able to do more but you have to work with what you have. Kids wont die if they can't go skating with you. Some day, maybe someone else will take her skating. Use what you have to offer. You can't give what you don't have.
You are doing well. Most likely problem is you have been at it (DBing) a long time and have progressed but your H is not there where you are yet.
Kids grow up and are well adjusted with parents who have fewer skills and assetts than you have. I understand you wanting to be able to do more but you have to work with what you have. Kids wont die if they can't go skating with you. Some day, maybe someone else will take her skating. Use what you have to offer. You can't give what you don't have.
