I've not read the book, don't have a book. I learnt DB'ing not from here but from Ash, my life-coach. He taught me what I know so I never read any books.
I didn't come on this site till February, even though I've been separated 3 yrs.
I am aware he is more controlling now than he ever was in the M. I think he will get better once we have a proper R, as our choices were always joint when we were married. He has just taking to running everything since.
My feeling is, he may be more equal once we have told everybody and eventually move in, if that happens. Judging by the past, I'd say he'd leave more decisions to me when he's clear our R is permanent.
