1. In the past if I've tried to set down rules, he ignores me. I could ask him to call me if he's going to be late and see how he responds.
Incidently, he behaves like this with everyone, not just me. He's late for all his friends, his mother etc and is only on time if he has to be, i.e, if it's a class for the kids or a job. Ex-OW used to moan about the same thing. I admit, he needs to get better at this though, as it's disrespectful to me.
2. He won't bend his life to fit me into it atm, i.e, all these activities and no time for anything else, including no time for my R with the kids, which I hate. I agree he is controlling with that as there is no good reason why I can't go to their home ed meetings. I am hoping he will let me into their lives more as this progresses. If not, I will leave him.
3 - I agree, it's on his terms again. Very frustrating, it feels like he's keeping my interest without committing to anything. I am in two minds what to do. One part of me wants to ring him and tell him when we are going out and tell him to cancel one of his evenings so we can get a babysitter, the other part of me wants to ignore it completely so then he gets the message we won't go out unless he is more acomodating.
4 - I agree, he wants me to agree with everything he says, very dominating. Didn't use to be so bad but has got worse since the split and everything his way since the court battle. Not sure what to do except smile sweetly and do what I want anyway. He knows he does it as he said he does it and doesn't want the R to be all him and that he 'worries about it' (his words) but nonetheless, doesn't do anything about it.
Yes I know he still sees me as his. I'm not sure about the sex as he said ILY for the first time in 3 years during sex so it obviously has some benefit. Maybe we should have a poll.
HOW MANY PEOPLE ON HERE THINK I SHOULD STILL BE SLEEPING WITH HIM?
I have thought of maybe limiting it or showing less physical interest in him. He currently sleeps with me anything from once a week to once a fortnight.
