Jo, I'd suggest you tap eyes and geneva's thoughts on your last exchange with your H. The children's behavior are not surprising. Their world is in turmoil. I'm going through it with my D15 and it hurts. Regarding your H, I see some troubling signs: 1. I rang him and asked what time he would be arriving - set down the rule if he doesn't arrive by stay home unless he calls and explains.He's "controlling" 2. he has already arranged a babysitter 3 nights this week (he goes out a lot in the evenings).He's still "controling" 3. 'We'll have to arrange that date.'more control 4. Boots - it's none of his business and if he chooses to be a vegatarian that's his choice. He's controlling and trying to get you to be a pleaser / victim jo, you're doing a lot better than me in improving you but I fear he still sees you as his. Lay down some visit rules and cut off the sex. This may come across as harsh but I'm feeding you everything I've regrefully practiced and hope like me you can learn from it. You may still salvage your M. I'm afraid mine is lost.
