Jo, Do something for yourself that will help you relax, raising children can push anyone to the edge. In my sit. if the children are bored, hungry or tired, we are in trouble. Everyone has challenges keeping up with the youngsters.
Your H will not quit loving you because of a stressfull day with the kids. You will have many more challenges in the future, which you will figure out how to handle when they come along.
I understand your feelings, but you did a good job controlling your words, so pat yourself on the back.
Jo hang in there you are an inspiration to all of us, don't let the stressfull times get you down.