Each of those goals seems realistic - how might you make them more specific? I wonder if you've read LostinLimbo's thread, as she's dealing with trying to get her H to move back home as well (in the Separated forum)?
My W's depression is interested - pretty low level usually but chronic in terms of low self-worth, lots of neg self-talk, and self-depreciation. She got that directly from MIL, who would do things like tell her she had the face of a dog as a girl (she's actually quite a beautiful women, and was cute as a girl from pictures), was very controlling, isolating W from others (would charge her money to leave the home). Some lesser physical abuse as well as minor neglect. Definitely little/no emotional bonding, as MIL used concrete expression to showcase care at key times but was distant otherwise. MIL has OCD, and W has used this in recent years to excuse her mother, but is still paying the price. W was hospitalized with Anorexia at 13yrs, had Bulimia from 18 - 24, was drugged&date-raped at 18. Sounds horrible/rough, yet she went on to excel academically, getting her doctorate in psychology (experimental), and is doing most of her colleagues (me included ) She tends to be very expressive, and is dramatic, drawing folks to her, but often feels lonely or disconnected. We can sit in the same room with 10 people complimenting her, and later she'll overfocus on the 1 statement she made that she saw as week or the 1 person who didn't say hello.
) She tends to be very expressive, and is dramatic, drawing folks to her, but often feels lonely or disconnected. We can sit in the same room with 10 people complimenting her, and later she'll overfocus on the 1 statement she made that she saw as week or the 1 person who didn't say hello.