I am at 1.42pm now - I am about 5 hours ahead of Florida.
Thanks for your comments re my children, esp. my mothering skills - no one ever tells me I am a good mother, so I appreciate that
H sees them as 'his' really, rather than ours, and the main problems I face in our R are the struggles I have to actually mother them and have any say in anything.
I always knew that this would be a problem if we ever split up because he was so into the kids from day 1, I'm sure he would have given birth if he could have! He used to say that 'we' were pregnant instead of that I was pregnant - I should have taken that as a warning
For him, I think is main issue is fear that I will get depression again, as I was really bad with it and he doesn't cope with people who are negative.
The kids were complaining that I didn't have any colouring pens last time they were here (DD4 would draw on the wall if I did) and I only have crayons for her, so I've bought an art set for them and I'm going to ask H if they can come over for the afternoon to do art.
I empathise with how difficult it must be for you to be away from your son.
