I admire your stance with your W's finances - mine would never have done that, good on you for not being bitter!
Mind you, mine was a WAH and you are an LBS so that's probably why. I have noticed the LBS's get less angry, I know that's a generalisation, but it always seems to be the WAS who is furious even though they left. It should be the LBS's who feel most angry as we are the 'dumped' ones
Re my one night stands, if you've not got an OW I wouldn't worry too much. My 'taster' of other men was basically a direct response to H's OW, but it really put me off men because it was really dire in comparison to H and the OW made him think the same, so in some ways it was a benefit because at least he knows he won't get it any better elsewhere
He did actually display all the classic hurt/betrayal reactions when he found out about my flings - even those he was living with OW. I ignored him because I was in a 'dark' phase, but that was when I knew he still loved me.
The moral of this story is, every sitch has a benefit even if to start with you can't see what that is.
