Same here with the "needing time to do it" - my H said he would end it with OW because it was wrong to start another relationship before we were completely, cleanly over, but that it was a "process" - yeah, she gets a longer, kinder "process" than I do after knowing her for a year compared to our 25???? The other night I messed up and asked him if they were still together...his answers, after a ridiculous "What do you mean?" (how stupid does he WANT to look?) were "I know she's still in love with me, and I'm still considering a relationship with her. If you mean are we intimate, no. If you mean have I thrown her on the trash heap of my life, then no." Yeah - make SURE I know you have HER feelings under consideration and you're concerned about HER, and make SURE I know I'm "competing" with her.
I don't know how much longer I can do this. Both my therapist and my horoscope said today that it's best for me to do nothing - that I'm not ready to "do" anything yet and when I am I will know and feel no ambivalence about it, and that procrastination is my best friend this week. Humiliation, too, I guess...
