I doubt very much if my H will be willing to end things the way I feel necessary with OW...but I need some feedback on what is reasonable. This is what I would want: I would want to meet her together (I have no idea what she looks like) and be with him as he tells her it's over, don't contact either of us in any way, and that means no contact with her little kids, either, whom she has been using to manipulate him. I want him to block her number from the phones and her email address from his email accounts. If she calls, I want him to hang up on her. I want him to remove the extra security around his email and cell phone.
Are these reasonable things? I do think that the way I would want him to end it with OW would be hurtful - but somebody's going to get hurt more and it should be her, not me. And I know he feels guilty already about not being around her kids - but unfortunately, the only times kids are truly hurt are by the stupid choices of adults and he hurt those kids the first time he stepped over the line with their mother. I want to be there when he has the last conversation with her because I need to hear it happen and I also need to see her to know if she's hanging around.
There is no way he will agree to this...but I don't know if I could go forward without it. Is there another way for me to look at it???
