Touchy topic. Nobody wants to admit that their focus on sex might be more about obsession than the sex itself...
Different behaviors in different circumstances does not disprove anything. We are all complex beings.
If we are using sex (or alcohol or food or whatever) to avoid some painful reality (loneliness, anxiety, neediness, whatever), that is the definition of addiction. Obviously, there are varying degrees. IMO, if sex is about filling a lack in myself (and has neediness associated with it) rather than sharing abundance, then there is something unhealthy that I need to work on in myself. I am using my partner rather than sharing joy.
