I have 1 dumb question, what time of year is 'fall'?
Post-D sex well, it happens when the WAS realises that actually they like your company more than they thought - usually after you have been seeing each other as friends, chatting, coffee and such.
I'll tell you how it happens for me and then you'll see what I mean. You already know about how he came back into my life. Well, I was going to Cyprus last Christmas for my holiday and I joked with him prior to this that I was going to find a nice Greek waiter and sleep with him
I told ex-ow this a few weeks earlier, too, as I actually had every intention of sleeping with a Greek waiter
She told H, so he already knew this. However, a couple of weeks prior to me going to Cyprus, H and I became friends so even though I did find a really handsome looking Greek waiter, I didn't sleep with him because of re-kindled friendship with H.
I fully intended NOT to invite H for Christmas and acted really cool. On the train on the way back home, he rang me on my cell phone and asked to come over for Christmas - the next day!!
We had a really lovely day with the kids, unwrapping presents, Christmas music, nice food etc and in the evening the girls wanted to watch this movie called 'The Santa Clause' and I thought we were all going to watch it but H said he didn't want to and could we go in another room?
Well, my house is tiny so realistically the only other room to sit is my bedroom.
We talked for an hour about my holiday with him lying on my bed and me perched on the end of the bed as far away from him as possible.
Eventually I got backache so I sat next to him, still trying to act cool.
He asked me if I shagged the Greek waiter I said not for want of trying (joke). We ended up kissing and some other fairly serious stuff. Was a MAJOR shock considering we 'were just being civil for the sake of the children'.
The next time I saw him there was tons of pent up energy from the kiss so we basically ripped each others clothes off
Then afterwards I said 'H, what is going on?' We had our first R talk AFTER the sex, and that was when he said he wanted to work on our R.
